Let’s Talk About Self-Love + Comics
Welcome to March (the month that naturally tells us to move forward! 😉)
This month’s topic is self-love.
Knowing how to love yourself (in life + in creativity) isn’t something that you just understand. It’s something you feel. So I put together a bit of a multimedia experience for you below, including: an audio, comic, and the usual playlist.
Sure, self-love might have been a better topic for February—with Valentine’s Day and all—as oodles of other blogs focused on.
But like those couples (that I love, btw) who say:
“Oh, we don’t really celebrate Valentine’s, we show our love for each other every day of the year.”
…Self-love is and should be more like that.
…Not a stand-in when there’s no romantic love or only when you need to unplug and take a long bath. Self-love is an ongoing relationship with yourself (as you’ll learn how + why in the audio coming up) that whispers to you in the best and worst moments: “I’m okay.”
It’s especially important when we’re creating.
Loving myself more has helped me create better work. Not that it should be measured in comparison but it simply feels better. I don’t second guess myself as much and can trust my ideas and instincts without intense doubt.
Now, this wouldn’t be something I wrote without a little advocacy… 😉 and, being March, it’s Women’s History Month! As women, it’s easier than men to fall into the societal feeling that we need a partner to complete ourselves (you know like what movies tell us: from early Disney to Jerry Maguire to the many others that don’t pass the Bechdel Test.)
So, with that in mind, let’s not stop at embracing our own self-love but also champion our comic character’s self-love and independence. Especially, our female characters.
In fact, I challenge you: whenever you’re inclined to write a character who’s pining after another, try approaching their POV from a more self-loving perspective. Have them learn that they can be all they need, instead of making their happiness dependent on another person’s acceptance.
(Speaking in movies: think more Frances Ha less 27 Dresses.)
Self-love isn’t selfish. It isn’t driven by the ego, it’s led by compassion. It actually opens our minds, eyes, and hearts to other’s experiences. Making us better storytellers, amongst the benefits. Feeling that we, and our work, are enough lowers our defenses to see things with the same unifying perspective. Because what we feel inside, we project outside of ourselves.
That gets me to the audio I recorded for you (yay!) I use drawing as the main example but it also applies to writing your comics, too.
Have a listen:
How To Deal With Performance Anxiety In The *Drawing* Room
Here’s a comic that’s talkin’ my talk:
LISTEN TO THE PLAYLIST